Couples and Marriage Therapist in NYC
Joshua Nelson, LMFT, LCSW - (212) 228-8258
My goal is to help you resolve your disagreements more productively and deepen your connection. I believe that the way to achieve that is to increase your understanding of each other. If you each feel more understood in the relationship, your arguments won’t spin out of control as easily and you will resolve conflict with less acrimony and greater generosity.
In the work that I do, I encourage you to pay attention to the physical and emotional micro-reactions that your partner is having to you. A key purpose is to help you manage these reactions so they do not get out of hand. During the session, I will ask you to pay particular attention to shifts in body, face and voice. These changes often can be signposts of your partner’s deeper, internal experience of you and the relationship.
In this therapy I will also help you to create a “couple bubble” around you. I believe that your relationship always has to be protected from outside negative influences around you. You can’t let anyone or anything get between you. You each have to feel that you’re a priority to the other person. No one wants to be demoted to #2. If you let that happen, your relationship will be in trouble.
I work exclusively with couples. I practice primarily two kinds of couples therapy: EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy). Using these therapies, I help you to drop beneath the verbal arguments, evaluations and opinions of each other and look more at how you're experiencing each other-emotionally, physically, or even energetically. I have seen that if people share their deep down experiences of each other, they're more likely to understand each other and are more willing to build bridges to each other.
You can find out more about EFT and AEDP at the following links: