My goal is to help you resolve your disagreements more productively and deepen your connection. I believe that the way to achieve that is to increase your understanding of each other. If you each feel more understood in the relationship, your arguments won’t spin out of control as easily and you will resolve conflict with less acrimony and greater generosity.
In the work that I do, I encourage you to pay attention to the physical and emotional micro-reactions that your partner is having to you. A key purpose is to help you manage these reactions so they do not get out of hand. During the session, I will ask you to pay particular attention to shifts in body, face and voice. These changes often can be signposts of your partner’s deeper, internal experience of you and the relationship.
In this therapy I will also help you to create a “couple bubble” around you. I believe that your relationship always has to be protected from outside negative influences around you. You can’t let anyone or anything get between you. You each have to feel that you’re a priority to the other person. No one wants to be demoted to #2. If you let that happen, your relationship will be in trouble.
I work exclusively with couples. This work is largely influenced by a cutting-edge approach known as PACT: a Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy. PACT is based on research in three key areas: neuroscience, attachment theory, and the biology of emotional regulation. You can find out more about PACT and the way that I work at the following link: http://thepactinstitute.com/dividedpage/what-is-pact/
Josh is a very skilled and dedicated therapist...I appreciate the extra help he gave us when we were in a rough spot. The most helpful thing has been observing the way Josh talks with my husband when he is triggered, and watching him relax. I learned a lot from that. Read more...